Post by TM
My jawline has seemingly overnight grown a fuzz. I’ve just had to clip the beginnings of a moustache (one single black – BLACK! – hair). But facial hair is the least of the worries of a 30-something-year-old. It joins a long list.
They say that this is the age when you start to figure it all out. Twenty-something-year-olds, you think you have it bad? You have it not. When you get to where I am, when everything is hard, if anything can be less hard, you let it be less hard. And guess what, dressing for a wedding can be less hard when you let yourself wear black.
It’s one of those can I or can’t I wedding etiquette ponderings that doesn’t need to be a thing anymore. Of course, you can wear black. No bride or groom will think you’re mourning their nuptials. There’s no secret bride conspiracy that disapproves of the non-colour because it suits everyone and makes you look thinner.
If you find yourself in the middle of another existential crisis and at the same time have a wedding to attend, and all you want to wear is trusty, flattering, reflects-your-mood black, don’t put yourself through the torture of finding something else. Because you can wear black and you shall go to the ball. And you’ll look fucking good.
Don’t, however, wear black if it makes you feel black. And don’t wear it if you’re still self-conscious about it. If you are, why are you even wearing black? But at the end of it all remember, weddings are happy affairs, and you’ll ruin it if you go around looking like you’d actually rather be at a funeral.
Don’t wear head to toe black. The least effort you can make is to wear a pair of silver or gold heels which add festive flair in winter. In summer, wear something like neon pink.
It’s also better not to cover up completely. Show some skin. Leg, or shoulders or cut-outs.
If you’re not going to have fun with your dress – it’s a good opportunity to crack yourself up with jewellery and accessories. Or at least amuse yourself internally. Or just not to use that black clutch again FFS. During winter, definitely, wear fur. FAUX. (Or inherited…)
You know what would look really good over an LDB, by the way? This collar by Joanne Hynes for Dunnes Stores – and we’re giving one away to one lucky reader along with a truly handy and stylish travel set from Lennon and Courtney.